After four decades of cussing people out, I’ve decided to stop. I used to be a road rager, an f-bomb-dropper, a middle-finger-raiser, but no more. I’ve decided to exert some self-control and do better.
Believe me, I see sh#t all day long that makes me want to pop off on or to people. But over time I’ve learned the best way to influence is by modeling good behavior. Showing, not telling. So I’ve tried to eliminate profanity in my life which has the added benefit of eliminating it from my son’s life and the lives of others around me.
I also know that profanity is a sort of temperature of my mood. If I start cussing, it means I’m getting pretty angry about something. Anger is another thing I’m trying to eliminate from my life.
Atheism is bad for your health. How, you say? Well, it forces you to fill up your time with something other than religion. Religion is imperfect, but it gives a person some structure.
For another, atheism enables the flourishing of anxiety and depression. In a religious tradition you are supposed to put God first, never yourself. So the endless ruminating and dwelling in one’s own mind and about one’s own problems yields unnecessary self-destructive thoughts.
Then there is the absence of moral guidance. For years I argued with my conservative religious friends about who was more “moral.” I was a liberal and I was wrong. In my travels I learned that without a religion humans are deeply confused about right and wrong. Not the big things. All but the sociopaths get the big things, but we are confused about the smaller ways that we choose good and evil, right and wrong, leaving us vulnerable in the modern world.
My workplace is getting increasingly feminine. Not feminist, feminine. Casual dress is now allowed, teleworking is commonplace, and cooperation is valued more than any other trait.
Not too long ago, my workplace was all-male (auditing). Now it is approaching 70% female. Women are increasingly grabbing the top spots in the organization. The future is female, they comfortably say around here.
“Work-life balance” is the buzzphrase of this new era. Baby/wedding showers are a regular occurrence. I go occasionally because they have decent snacks, but I’m a little bit embarrassed, as any man should be.
Diversity training has become required for every employee. Disagreeing with the content may get you fired. There are a lot of LGBT month events around the vital issue of transgenderism. This is the “civil rights struggle of our time.”
Our counseling office- yes, we have a counseling office- increasingly offers classes and courses to protect each and every one of us from difficult emotions. Because, of course, painful emotions are the worst thing a person can encounter.
I’m currently watching Narcos on Netflix and finding myself in the strange position of being both repulsed by and kind of liking the character of Pablo Escobar. He is, of course, a horrible man. But he also is a good family man. He’s much like the Tony Soprano character- a likable, but pretty evil guy. He takes care of his family and he takes care of his crew members (for the most part). He is a provider and a protector, admirable traits to men.
This is why our culture needs stable, admirable archetypes. Without them, we start to gravitate away from the proper role model, JC.
The idea that women or girls in America have some relegated status behind boys is nonsense. Perhaps in some families and some cultures, but by and large, no.
Look at all of the data. Women outnumber men receiving college degrees, master’s degrees, and Ph.D.’s. Men far outnumber women in all of the “bad” categories except sexual assault- homelessness, being a victim of violence, incarceration, dying young, etc. The feminists say, “Well, men are victimizing each other.” So friggin’ what? If you’re murdered or robbed or beaten up, does it really matter whether it was perpetrated by a man or a woman?
The more pernicious elements of feminism also promote countless other false, terrible ideas like 1) careers are more important than children, 2) feelings and beliefs should be valued over facts, and 3) we live in a rape culture brimming with toxic masculinity.
If this were true, why are rapists the most hated offenders in our men’s prisons? Why would we endlessly hear that we need more women in STEM? Maybe we need more MEN in nursing? I’m basically okay with this one, but do we really need the relentless, unceasing emphasis on this? Can we just generally encourage boys and girls BOTH to get into STEM?
Worst of all, feminism is responsible for the gendering of suffering. By this I mean that feminism highlights and emphasizes upper middle-class white women’s victimhood over that of everyone else. No thanks.
In today’s gospel, Jesus calls on us to not declare false oaths, but to simply speak the truth. This message has been lost in the modern era of talking points and tribalism.
How can we restore the Christian value of honesty, and the related values of humility, sacrifice, service? One by one, every man and woman saying, “Enough! We’ve had enough of the postmodern woke corporate nonsense that pervades our culture.”
It’s time to usher in an era of self-reliance, individual freedom, and optimism. I’m sorry to say this to the atheists, but only Christianity will lead us that way.